Archive for May, 2009

For All Mothers….

May 11, 2009

Mothers Day is such an emotional time in our family….I lost my mom 10 years ago, and I still miss her presence every day. Thankfully Dave’s mom is with us, and we also have Dianas birthmom Artrina ,to embrace on this Special Day.

                Yesterday we celebrated and watched a piece on Global T.V. that  we participated in, on open adoption. It was so touching to see footage of  our early days with Diana…from the night we brought her home, our entrustment ceremony, first birthday, and other special occasions. We  were able to revisit our journey  of adoption so far, and it is truly wonderful to realize the relationship we have all developed with Artrina, and most importantly that Diana has forged with her. They don’t see each other a lot during the  the span of a year, but their connection when together  is so evident. I look forward to all the years  ahead!! 

       This gift of our relationship ,also brings to mind the families and children who  are are not able to know that link, and I am sorry for that. The upcoming disclosure legislation  on June 1 ,will enable those who wish to find birthfamily, and children placed in our province from 1921 onwards, the means to do so….with love, respect and empathy. Perhaps these potential reunions will also bring about the  education needed to move our collective thoughts about adoption forward, with more understanding, tolerance and compassion….for birthparents and their families, adoptive families and adoptees….

         Wouldn’t that be the best goal for all of us?



May 3, 2009

I  think it is finally safe to  say that the sun is here to green up the grass, and grow our  gardens! Spring is always a great time of year to start a new project, take a new path, and make new connections.  Labours of Love is taking me in some new directions that I am excited about!

                  I attended the Spring A.R.E. in Toronto with the book, and took along a new offering….Adoption -related greeting cards! It is one of those items, many of us involved in adoption have looked for, and have trouble finding.  The cards I had with me, received a warm and enthusiastic reception, so I plan to develop the line more fully !  Stay tuned for news on my website, and ordering details. In the meantime, if any of you need custom cards for any adoption events or occasions, please contact me at  and I will be happy to design and produce anything you might need!

        The other great news is that I have started an adoption group in  Oakville for adoptive parents and potential  adoptive parents. We  had our first meeting on April  28th , and it was terrific! It is a very diverse  group with a wide variety of adoption experiences, which will bring  different ideas and perspectives to us all. The meetings will be about once a month…. until the end of  June…so probably only a few more meetings until next fall. Again , if you are interested in attending…please get in touch for more details.

     I am also pondering another adoption book…..perhaps a childrens book, and I’d love to hear your suggestions about what is missing out there for kids in the way of adoption books…let me know what would benefit  you and your child, and family!

       As always, I am trying to get the word out there about the book, and doing what I am able to do with the Adoption Council of Canada…..they could use our support in the way of membership…if you are not a member yet…please consider joining, so that their work can continue.   Look forward to hearing from you!! Deborah.